Yesterday my daughter had a little bit of what I would like to call an emotional tantrum. I asked her why she was upset and at first she answered me with “nothing mom,” but I knew better. Just by looking at her I could see she was feeling distressed.
One of my new things is validating my own personal feelings and dealing with them. This something I would like to instill in my daughter. So I said “no baby tell me the truth, what’s going on?” Then she answered, “Mom, I don’t want to do the schoolwork.”
So began our conversation about how to deal with the “hard stuff” in life.
I told her in life there will be times you will have to do the things that you don’t want to do. Sometimes, in order to get to where you want to be in life there will be tasks you will have to complete to obtain your goals and be successful.
In order to get to the place you want to be in life, whether it’s a promotion at your job or a successful catering business, there will be things along the way you will have to do that you don’t want to do.
That’s what Today’s post is all about: Doing the “Hard Stuff.”
Here some Amanda-nese for ya:
hard stuff: 1. the task(s) that you don’t really want to do, 2. the work you don’t like to do but have to do
There’s a sense of heaviness attached to duties, frankly, you simply do not like to do.
Think about it. Have you ever felt joy while doing an assignment you love to do? Doesn’t it just seem like time flies? Of, course. It feels like light or airy.
Now think about something you can’t stand to do. Or maybe something that’s just really boring…like laundry.
How does that feel? Heavy, dense, or hard.
The question then comes down to:
How can we make these tough chores, lighter and less burdensome?
So what I have learned is that if you attach an incentive, or reward, of some kind for yourself it can help to motivate you to complete it.
Good idea, right?
I like chocolate A LOT so if I have to do something that I consider “hard” I reward myself for completing the task with chocolate. Now you can use whatever it is that you like or whatever brings you happiness – just make sure it’s legal and not harmful to other m-kay. Lol.
With anything in life, you will not always have the happy-go-lucky feeling of euphoria 100% of the time, so for those times when you get down in the dumps & you don’t feel like doing the “hard stuff” use an incentive to help you get through it.
Hopefully as you progress in your journey, you won’t have to use the incentives as much, it may become an ingrained habit so you’ll just be able to “Get’r done.”
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