Not all relationships are equal.
We must evaluate the type of relationship we have with a person before asking something of them.
This is so paramount in the entertainment industry. As an actor, I must prove myself to those who do not know me. And even those who do know me I must continue to be trustworthy and professional to protect their reputation.
Levels of relationship are also apparent in families. I think family members are just strangers linked by blood. I say this because if you do not take the time to get know a person, even in your family, they seem foreign and unfamiliar to you. I think sometimes we use the word family as a crutch, or maybe a manipulation, to implement a pseudo-connection without really working.
Our associations are indeed important. A lot of people are judged on who surrounds them. We must be careful not to judge too quickly or too harshly and learn to develop relationships on an individual basis.
I would be remiss if I did not mention conflict in relationships. When getting to know someone you discover new things and maybe some odd or quirky things about them. I think friction arise because of a false mental depiction of a person, miscommunication, and unrealistic expectations.
In developing relationships, I think we if expect some kind of turmoil we would be less likely to give up because no one is perfect. Remember without turmoil there is no opportunity for growth. @LeeGlass
Although it may be tough, disagreement should not be a deterrent to seeking and building new relationships. In my many years of marriage, conflicts have come about but working through them has strength my bond and help me grow as a person.
All in all, know what level your relationship is in, whether its just starting out or a matured twenty year old alliance, with someone and respect the level until the relationship grows.
P.S. Now I want to hear what you have to say. Sound off in the comments. What are some of the challenges you have faced or found daunting in your relationships?
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