The one thing my husband and I have in common is when we say we are going to do something – we do it. Other than that we’re pretty much complete opposites.
I’m ESFJ = Extraverted, Sensing, Feeling and Judging
He’s INTP = Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, and Perceiving
But being a doer is a part of our core foundation. What I mean by “Doer” is a person of quick or decisive action based on honoring what was stated previously. A perfect example of the doer concept is a story about when my husband when in primary school (aka elementary school) in the Bahamas.
His teacher sprung a pop quiz on the class. Prior to the test he and a group of “friends” stated if there was a pop quiz each would protest by writing down silly answers. Well, the only person who followed through was my husband. His teacher singled him out for it, and much to his surprised he realized his “friends” were just a bunch of talk. Thus he learned at that tender age not everyone will do what they say.
My most recent example of being a doer is the decision of having a homebirth with my last child (Pictured Above). I only told a few people: my mom, best friend, and siblings [eventually]. I did my best not to inform any naysayers. The homebirth was painful but awesome. I felt so empowered afterward. I was glowing for at least 3 months. Yes, no meds what-so-ever. Definitely a great experience.
The indicator I am resolved in my decision is me telling someone about what I am going to do. Prior to making up my mind, I do not speak about it; which leads me to being rather selective to what I pledge to do. I would rather not say I’m going to do something, then to say yes and not do it. I hurt deeply if I have to back out of something. Makes me feel yucky. 🙂
Words are very powerful to me. As Mother Maya Angelou says, “Words are things.”
In closing, not everyone is a doer and that’s okay. If you are a doer – don’t be afraid of the resistance that will come your way when you do your thing. *Encouragement, encouragement, encouragement.
P.S. I want to hear from you. Tell me about a time you did something worthwhile just for yourself, and the reaction you received.
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