On this journey, I have come up against resistance. It happens to everyone. Most of the time, you can receive resistance from outside forces, but what about the internal struggle? This is what this post is all about — Fighting the resistance within yourself.
When I make a decision to add or subtract something in my life, I am hit with, well rather felt a tug or pulling to stay the same. For example, when I committed myself to the launching of this website (finally), I knew something would have to change. No one likes change. As a human being, change is scary, predictability is safe.
Our brains like “normalcy,” things we already know. The “same ol’ thing” is like warm comfortable blanket that we’ve had since college or longer. It’s tore, tattered, worn out, pass the point of mending, but we like it because it’s familiar. We know, logically, we should throw it away. However we don’t want to part with something “so dear” to us.
Here are some tips to help you in your fight with resisting change:
1. Acknowledge: Change is inevitable.
The only thing that is constant is Change. Like the weather, life (circumstances/situations) is full of change. Our greatest example is nature. Change happens regardless if we want it to or not.
2. Make a decision.
Making a decision can be the hardest thing to do. We all want to make the “right” decision. Take some time to think and when you have a clear picture of what you want. Make a decision.
Making a decision on what you are going to do in the time of change will give you focus.
Sometimes a change comes to steer us in a new direction. Whatever you approach to life, as in, if you are a go with a flow type of person like my best friend or a control-freak like myself — making a decision helps to deal with the stress and anxiety of change. You can always “change” your mind and make a different decision [pun-intended].
3. Action: Act & Do.
Once you’ve made your decision of what you are going to do, act immediately. This will help ease the transition of change. It also helps to find out if you’ve made a good, profitable and workable decision. If the decision is wrong you’ll know right away from the action. If you want a different result in your life, you’re going to have to change something you’re doing.
4. Prepare yourself for the setback.
Most people skip this step. You will most likely have a setback whether it is physical or mental. Prepare yourself so when it comes you are not caught off guard. You can acknowledge it and refocus your energies on the Action.
Celebrate your small victories. Celebrate every time you make a move, no more if it is forward or backward. Celebrate yourself for being brave and doing something that is scary. Celebrate those around you. Whether you know it or not, the people watching you need to see you succeed so they know it is possible.
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